I'm too old for this

13 things at the age of 50 that I'm past

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Hi lovely,

You’re reading this on my 50th birthday. I’m half a century old, it’s my golden jubilee year.

And, to be quite frank with you, I’ve realised that at this ripe old age of 50 there are some things that I am just too old for.

1. I’m too old to pretend I’m fine when I’m not.

2. I’m too old to let what other people might think hold me back.

3. I’m too old to stay out or awake when I’ve reached peak peopling and my energy has evaporated.

4. I’m too old to abandon myself for others’ comfort.

5. I’m too old to say I don’t mind when really I do.

6. I’m too old to apologise for who I am.

7. I’m too old to play down my skills, experience, abilities and achievements for fear I appear full of myself (who else should I be full of?).

8. I’m too old to let the mean girl in my head take up space or grab the mic.

9. I’m too old to continue believing I’m not enough and too much.

10. I’m too old to make people understand me (or believe my ADHD) and to fret about it if they don’t.

11. I’m too old to say yes when I mean no.

12. I’m too old to expect others to read my mind instead of saying what I want or need.

13. I’m too old to continue to curb, constrain and squash myself into society’s ‘good girl’ mould.

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And there are things that I’ll never be too old for.

• I’ll never be too old to learn something new, try something new, make new friends.

• I’ll never be too old to pick up activities I loved as a child and enjoy them again.

• I’ll never be too old to miss my mum and dad and wish I could cuddle them once more.

• I’ll never be too old to wear what I like.

• I’ll never be too old to change career again (I’m not going to! Just saying that I’m not too old if I did want to).

• I’ll never be too old to giggle and be silly and potentially make a fool of myself.

• I’ll never be too old to say I don’t know, I don’t understand, I got it wrong, I’m sorry, I need help.

• I’ll never be too old to dream big and believe my dreams are worth pursuing.

I’m curious, what are you too old for, and what are you not too old for? Meet me in the comments and let me know.

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So much good stuff in the Quiet ADHD Club this month

There’s a LOT going on in the Quiet ADHD Club this month from a brand new deep dive with a fantastic guest expert to a brilliant special offer including a gift from me to you, and of course all the usual good stuff like body-doubling sessions, accountability threads, Q&A…

You can read all about what’s happening in the Club in July in this post including the interview with How to Eat Well for Adults with ADHD author Rebecca King.

🎁 And you can find out how to get your hands on my birthday celebration gift – the Say No with Confidence (& Self-compassion) Kit in this post.

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Read…

Another issue of Happy News – the newspaper that shares real and uplifting news stories – is out! We know that there is terrible pain in the world and there are good people doing good things that make a real difference in the world too.

I especially loved reading that since the London Marathon began in 1981 its runners have raised more than £1.3billion for charity, an increase in members of the public learning CPR has saved more than 300 lives in the south-east of England alone, and a team of scientists and neurosurgeons are hopefully speeding up the process of fighting dementia.

You can also read my piece on this issue’s theme of individuality 😊

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Listen…

🎧 Two more episodes of the Pressing Pause podcast are now available to you:

Ep 150 – Dealing with the overwhelm that comes with an ADHD realisation

Ep 151 – The rollercoaster of discovering you’re neurodivergent

You’ll find all the episodes of my Pressing Pause podcast here or on your favourite podcast player.

Until next time,

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Go gently, you’re not alone, we’re in this together.

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Top photo by Andrea Gilpin

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