Hell yes to this, to all of it, you are so right, the phrase Too Much but yet Not Enough is spot on for me, looking forward to our chat in a few weeks, such a great post Gabrielle ❤️
Hello, glad to have you back and hope you're doing OK. I've struggled my whole life with not being like everyone else, and I never knew what it was, I was always in trouble at school for daydreaming (I was put on my own on a "naughty table") and it carried on from there. I work full time, have a child etc and from the outside probably look fine, but everything takes me so much more effort than it seems to take most people. My teenage son has ADHD (but has refused a diagnosis in case it affects his future job prospects) and then I realised that's what I have! I was 39 and I'd been perimenopausal for 7 years, so that wasn't helping. It's now three years on and I still haven't been to the GP to start the diagnosis pathway - 1, I never seem to get round to booking an appointment. 2, the length of time it takes scares me and I'm worried I'll be laughed at. 3, I'm worried I'll be judged as "jumping on the bandwagon" and not believed. It's truly changed my life finding out about ADHD (I had two friends who both work in that sector who asked me about mine, then both fell off their chairs laughing when they found out I didn't know that's what I have - over the years I've been diagnosed with anxiety/ depression etc). As a child, a psychologist told me I was a "naughty child who made my mum cry" and that followed me my whole life, plus meant my mum punished me constantly. My heart breaks for that little girl that I was, and I so hope all the awareness nowadays stops more girls going through over forty years of thinking it's their fault and that there is something wrong and bad in them. Now I'm in the process of working out what to deal to start healing and manage it
Thank you for sharing so openly, Verity. I'm so sad and mad that someone in such a position of authority said such harmful words to you. The little girl in you deserves all the love, kindness and acceptance in the world, as does the grown-up you now. I believe getting a diagnosis is a personal decision, you don't need one to prove you have ADHD or to get support (apart from medication). With the realisation you have ADHD you have an explanation for what you have and do struggle with, you can begin to understand yourself better and help others to understand you better too (it'd be great if we didn't have to do that but we're not there yet), begin to accept all of who you are and bring more self-compassion, more love and kindness to yourself. Sending you much love as you journey and if you'd like to have a chat just let me know x
Lovely to have you back and adored your words. Obviously proud as punch for your seemless press plug. You are doing so well.
Thanks, Lucy, you're rubbing off on me ;)
Hell yes to this, to all of it, you are so right, the phrase Too Much but yet Not Enough is spot on for me, looking forward to our chat in a few weeks, such a great post Gabrielle ❤️
That phrase just describes it so well, right? Really looking forward to chatting with you too x
Hello, glad to have you back and hope you're doing OK. I've struggled my whole life with not being like everyone else, and I never knew what it was, I was always in trouble at school for daydreaming (I was put on my own on a "naughty table") and it carried on from there. I work full time, have a child etc and from the outside probably look fine, but everything takes me so much more effort than it seems to take most people. My teenage son has ADHD (but has refused a diagnosis in case it affects his future job prospects) and then I realised that's what I have! I was 39 and I'd been perimenopausal for 7 years, so that wasn't helping. It's now three years on and I still haven't been to the GP to start the diagnosis pathway - 1, I never seem to get round to booking an appointment. 2, the length of time it takes scares me and I'm worried I'll be laughed at. 3, I'm worried I'll be judged as "jumping on the bandwagon" and not believed. It's truly changed my life finding out about ADHD (I had two friends who both work in that sector who asked me about mine, then both fell off their chairs laughing when they found out I didn't know that's what I have - over the years I've been diagnosed with anxiety/ depression etc). As a child, a psychologist told me I was a "naughty child who made my mum cry" and that followed me my whole life, plus meant my mum punished me constantly. My heart breaks for that little girl that I was, and I so hope all the awareness nowadays stops more girls going through over forty years of thinking it's their fault and that there is something wrong and bad in them. Now I'm in the process of working out what to deal to start healing and manage it
Thank you for sharing so openly, Verity. I'm so sad and mad that someone in such a position of authority said such harmful words to you. The little girl in you deserves all the love, kindness and acceptance in the world, as does the grown-up you now. I believe getting a diagnosis is a personal decision, you don't need one to prove you have ADHD or to get support (apart from medication). With the realisation you have ADHD you have an explanation for what you have and do struggle with, you can begin to understand yourself better and help others to understand you better too (it'd be great if we didn't have to do that but we're not there yet), begin to accept all of who you are and bring more self-compassion, more love and kindness to yourself. Sending you much love as you journey and if you'd like to have a chat just let me know x
Beautifully put as anyways ❤️
Thanks, Hannah, you can just feel the eye rolling, can't you?