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…a place where you can take a breath, find comfort and understanding, inspiration and ideas to overcome your overwhelm and move forward with more calm and joy.
You can say no and still be a kind person.
You can say no and still be a generous person.
You can say no and still be a helpful person.
You can say no and still be a compassionate person.
You can say no and still be a liked person.
You can say no and still be a reliable person.
You can say no and still be a caring person.
You can say no and still be a diligent person.
You can say no and still be a responsible person.
You can say no and still be an ambitious person.
Saying no when you want to doesn’t make you mean, selfish, hard, thoughtless, self-centred, inconsiderate or difficult.
Here are 10 ways to say no kindly and clearly:
No, thank you.
No, I won’t be there, have a great time.
It’s kind of you but no thanks.
I’m saying no this time.
I appreciate the thought, it’s not for me.
Thank you for the opportunity but it’s a no.
No, thanks for asking anyway.
No, I’ll pass this time.
Not this time but do ask again another time.
That’s not for me but thanks for the suggestion.
There are more ways to say no in Experiment 13: Say ‘No’ (Without feeling guilty) in The 1% Wellness Experiment.
And on that subject…
Coming to America
Yes, I do have Neil Diamond singing in my head as I write this.
The 1% Wellness Experiment is soon to be published in the United States and Canada! On Tuesday 27 February to be precise.
To celebrate that and, if you plan to get a copy, to encourage you to pre-order because it makes a BIG difference to how well the book is stocked and found after publication, you have the chance to win a one-to-one coaching session with me by pre-ordering The 1% Wellness Experiment in the US or Canada.
All you need to do is show me you’ve pre-ordered the book here to enter the giveaway.
I’ve been thrilled with the response and reviews since the book was published in the UK just before Christmas and I’m excited for it to reach more readers.
So, if you have any ideas for how I can spread the word over the pond about the book please do let me know. I’ll happily chat with you for your podcast or Facebook group or help out with features… reply to this email to let me know.
Listen…
There’s a new podcast episode ready for you where I’m sharing a different perspective on all the balls you’re juggling, particularly when it feels like you’re in danger of dropping one (or more) of them.
You can listen to episode 138 of Pressing Pause on iTunes, Spotify or your podcast app of choice and you can also listen (and read the transcript) here.
Until next time,
PS Book links go to my store on bookshop.org where I may receive a small fee if you go on to purchase.
More for you:
Get your free guides for more calm and joy
Listen to the Pressing Pause podcast
Subscribe to my Substack
Buy my book The 1% Wellness Experiment
How you can work with me:
One-to-one coaching on Zoom
Coach in Your Pocket by messaging app
Take an online course
Just what I needed to hear today, thank you Gabrielle ❤️
One of the lasting benefits of the lockdown has been how easy it was to break away from group activities when they reconvened.I understood that I enjoyed having a more open calendar instead of rushing off to art group or knitting group as a weekly routine. I am sure some people were miffed, but I had been stuffing down my resentment of the pressure to join group projects as the price of membership. Following my own muse feels so much better, without the chitchat about restaurants and vacations and shopping that was the background of these scheduled gatherings.